Love, Lust, What's the difference?

I wanted to blog today but for some reason, topic titles are suddenly scarce, so I asked for HELP and posted a question on my facebook status "What can I write about today? In three minutes came an answer from one of the "crusaders"

"Which head really governs men?"

Hahahaha, So here it is, Bok, this one's for you.......

So let's start with the question, Can we "separate" love from lust? meaning can you be in love with someone without feeling lust for her?

Can you?

Uh???

Can you?!?!?!?

If your answer is "Yes, I can".......Say it again and listen to yourself..........

I don't think that's possible. I don't see love being separated from lust, like the two goes hand in hand together like cup and saucer or fork and spoon or Bonnie & Clyde, see the association? Yes anyone of these examples can exist without the other but the utility of the remaining part won't ever be completed without the other, the "gist" just won't be there.

So now, since from my point of view, there can never be love without lust, How can a woman tell whether a man feels "Love" (Love + Lust) or purely "Lust" for her? Here are some tips, based on research and "experience"......

1. It is love when he's always longing to be with you, WITH OR WITHOUT SEX, and he doesn't mind when you say "Sex needs to wait". Well it's not actually that he doesn't mind, he will surely try to get between your legs from time to time but at least he won't force you., that will be a good indicator.

2. It is love when he finds you beautiful when you're not (basing on the naked eye standards of "beauty")

3. It is love when he talks to you about a "future" together, well... he will surely talk about sex from time to time but at least there will be times that he gets to talk about other things like having and raising kids with you.

4. It is love when he talks about or at best/worse (depending on which perspective you wanna look at it) proposes to marry you.

Now, assuming that you started believing that he's "in love" with you and you decided that "the waiting is over" and you do sex with him, there are still indicators on whether or not he's "really" in love with you.......even after sex.

He's really in love with you when.....

1. He tells you that he loves you even after and not only during sex.

2. He still cuddles you after sex and doesn't give you the "I am so sleepy" excuse when you try to start a conversation.

3. He doesn't give you the "I got to go" excuse after sex or any other excuse just to avoid spending time with you after doing the "deed"

It's just lust when......

1. He doesn't respond to your "cheesy" messages like "I miss you, baby" except during times that he feels like doing it, he will reply by saying "I miss you more, I'm dying to be WITH you" or anything to that effect.

2. He wants to have sex with you every time that you're together.

3. He doesn't care whether you're hungry or thirsty or dying before or after having sex, what's important for him is that he can do it with you it's a "Let's do it and call it a day" thing.

4. You don't usually finish a thing that you're doing before sex whether it be watching a movie or playing badminton because he is usually in a "rush" to do it and in a "rush" to get rid of you right after.

Hahaha so you are now starting to think how your boyfriends acted the last time you did it.

Been there, Done that so you ladies better believe me.